Archive for April, 2010

I just wanted to say “Thank You”, to everyone who has prayed, donated money, and supported A White Stone Cause: Manicures for Exotic Dancers. You raised over $650.00 and bought 30 girls free manicures and goody bags full of Skittles, Hershey Kisses, lotions, lipgloss, and the love of Jesus Christ! Thank you Thank you Thank you!

This weekend my friend Beth and I will be going to deliver the gifts, and we will have a team of people from North praying in the parking lot. Please join us by praying.

There is an unbelievable story behind all of this about how the Lord has opened up a door for me to meet a sweet girl who works at the club, but you will have to wait until Sunday for me to share the story in its entirety. I can’t wait to tell you what the Lord has already done…until then…here’s the process!! 🙂

Check back Sunday for the REST of the story!!


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A word often scorned and silenced in the church world, as an untouchable topic. In a culture where a woman’s worth and value is determined by outward appearance and sex appeal, in a culture where media screams, “Sex sell”, in a day where the sex industry is a billion dollar industry, and in a church where 80% of men say they struggle at some level with sexual sin, I think if Jesus was walking the earth right now, He would talk about it.

I think it would be wrong to blog about beauty, without mentioning the exploitation of physical beauty, sex, and lust. Our culture plasters it everywhere. The cultural expectation of beauty is crushing to our gender. But have you ever stopped for a minute to think about what it does to our men? Ladies, I have to be honest with you for a minute, and this may hurt.

Stop bashing men.

Pornography is so easily accessible in this day, and the temptation is especially prone to trip up men. It stares them in the face every day. It’s time women see the big picture. So often we can’t see past our own problems and struggles with beauty; we never see how it effect our guys. Don’t get me wrong. Jesus is very clear that lust is a sin. Pornography is wrong. It cheapens women and sex. It ruins lives and marriages. It’s a deep slippery slope set up by the devil. (And if your struggling and need help start here)

But its time we pray for those who struggle, rather than scowl and judge. We should applaud the Godly men in our lives who are fighting the fight, and by the strength of Jesus Christ in order to glorify HIS name are resisting the temptations so readily before them.

God created marriage to be a mystery, a metaphor for a true and perfect relationship with God. (Ephesians 5:32 )The whole point of marriage is intimacy with another. Intimacy is very thing that Jesus came and died to restore, our ability to have a real relationship with God again. God makes it very clear that sex is reserved for marriage; it’s a beautiful culmination of a righteous relationship, a display of something that has happened between two souls. Sex is a display of intimacy. Pornography is a substitution for what is achieved in a marriage relationship. Instead of a lasting relationship, it’s a momentary pleasure. It’s all the benefits of intimacy without the vulnerability or risk of rejection, without the work, and while being completely comfortable. It’s easy. It’s addicting. And its pretend, because in the end you only need more. And in the end, your heart is still missing the real relationship.

Women, open your hearts to what I believe God wants you to know. God has intended marriage and sex to point us to the fact that He can meet our deep need to feel secure, beautiful, desirable, enough, worthy. But how often do you try to meet those deep needs somewhere else? How often do you opt for the easy, cheap, short-lasting, fake version? Maybe the idea of pornography sickens you, angers you, makes you feel rejected and insecure, but I dare you to ask yourself today, what is your pornography?

Lets get real for a second, we would love to believe that we don’t struggle like men do. While we may be different genders, really the struggle is the same. If you (single or married) are looking to fill your worth, value, OKness, completeness, security, and beauty in something other than an intimate, real relationship with Jesus Christ… You’re battle may not be pornography of the eye… it is pornography of the heart.

Pornography of the heart is making women everywhere cheapen marriage and sex. More importantly, it is cheapening our relationship and intimacy with God. God wants your heart and nothing less. He wants an intimate, alive relationship with you. Pornography of the eye, or pornography of the heart–its all sin. Stop giving your heart away. Stop fulfilling your desires in cheap substitutes. When you have pornography of the heart, you aren’t worshipping Jesus. You are worshipping your own comfort and fears. You are worshipping yourself.

Your pornography probably looks something like this…
Do you constantly strive to be perfect? Compare yourself to other women all the time? Do you gossip to feel better about yourself? Do you tease men to get attention? Or do take pride in your purity and believe one day when you have sex all your insecurity will go away? Have you become hard to protect yourself? Are you obsessed with external beauty…have you given in to the sex appeal/worth lie? Do you use guys “friend” to feel secure and throw them away when you’re done with them? Are you afraid to be vulnerable, afraid to trust? Or have your resolved to “beat guys at their own game”? Are you judgemental and unable to find grace for people who make mistakes? Or have you resolved to fine your worth in people pleasing, your job, your friends, your husband, your spirituality…fill in the blank.


Proverbs 23:26
“My [daughter], give me your heart, and let your eyes observe my ways.”

1 Peter 3:3-6
“Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, …And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening.”

Matthew 6:21
“Where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.”

The Men in My Life…so proud 🙂

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I am one of those people that some might call “Dramatic.”

I like to think of it as “passionate.” I’m a “feeler”, led by my heart and “all in” every time. My joys are epic and so are my sads. Yes, sometimes, I get that weird phenomenon where my worlds collide, and I find myself laughing and crying at the same time. So what. 🙂

This week I’ve been down about a certain circumstance in my life. And while I was tempted to retreat to my old ways of handling pain, I chose to cry out to my Jesus. Let me tell you, if talking to God is supposed to look pretty, I wouldn’t talk to Him very much.

Sitting on the floor, crying, I started with blaming. But it didn’t last long. As soon as His tenderness hit my heart, I just melted into a puddle of ‘whys’.

Then something happened. In the midst of my snotty, sloppy prayers a phrase came out of my mouth that made me stop talking completely. I said, “Did you bring me out here to die?” I stopped. Where did that come from? And for a moment, I was completely silent. I was silent long enough for God to speak to my heart. He said, “Katie, that’s what the Israelites asked me too? What did I say to them?” To which I replied, “I don’t know, Daddy, I didn’t know they said that to You too.”

Later that night, I was recounting my award-winning performance to David and remembered the words of the Lord. I asked Him if that was even in the Bible, and all He said was Exodus 14.

Exodus 14:10-14
“As Pharaoh approached, the Israelites looked up, and there were the Egyptians, marching after them. They were terrified and cried out to the LORD.They said to Moses, “Was it because there were no graves in Egypt that you brought us to the desert to die? What have you done to us by bringing us out of Egypt? Didn’t we say to you in Egypt, ‘Leave us alone; let us serve the Egyptians’? It would have been better for us to serve the Egyptians than to die in the desert!” Moses answered the people, “Do not be afraid. Stand firm and you will see the deliverance the LORD will bring you today. The Egyptians you see today you will never see again.The LORD will fight for you; you need only to be still.”

I don’t know what you are going through in your life, but if you make the Lord the person you turn to, your trust, your stronghold; He will fight for you. And you need only to be still.

Thank you Jesus.

(Drama Queen)

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Maybe you are wondering if trusting in the light and truth of Jesus Christ could actually change the way you look on the outside. My testimony is that it can.

Like so many women in this world, I struggled to see myself as valuable and special. I desperately longed to reflect beauty and perfection to the world, but I spent all my energy striving to find my reflection through things that always failed me. (sports, body image, relationships with guys, people pleasing, perfectionism, friendships, intellect). The older I got, the more damaged I felt. The more I failed at who I was trying to be. And the more I truly believed that there was something wrong with me.

My failure to reflect to the world perfection drove me into a sense of hopelessness and darkness. I couldn’t live with the thoughts in my head. Shame, self-hatred, lonliness, worthlessness, failure…was the constant cycle of my thoughts. I felt dark. I was insecure and ugly, and I knew it.

When I was 21, my sister and I spent a month on the island of Fiji with an organization called Athlete’s In Action. Before we could actually leave, we went through an intense physical and spiritual training week in. During one of the sessions, a girl spoke about her struggles for perfection, her struggles with her reflection, her struggles with the mirror. It had been a long time since I had cried, and I cried through the whole thing. The most amazing thing to me was that the very dark thoughts that I thought about myself came out of her mouth as she described her own thoughts. And they had driven her to her own battle with body image and perfection.

What I found out that day was that the darkness in this world speaks the same message to all women. We all carry with us the image of our perfect reflection (maybe its to be beautiful, desirable, athletic, smart, …fill in the blank). I carried mine with me, thinking that perfect love would come as soon as I achieved it. But we fail at ever attaining it. We go about silently, alone, and accepting our flaws and failures as reality. We believe it as truth. It becomes who we are. And darkness overwhelms us.

I prayed a simple prayer that day. I prayed that God would heal me and that I would know the truth of who I was. I allowed light to come back in.

True beauty is allowing the light of Jesus into your heart. It’s surrendering to your failures, and letting Jesus cover them. True beauty is believing the truth about what God says is true about you, instead of the false expectations and lies and comparison in this world. True beauty is not striving to reflect to the world your idea of perfection. True beauty is choosing to reflect JESUS to the world. It will not only change you on the inside, but it will change the way you look on the outside. It will change the way people see you. It will change your reflection.

It wasn’t my will power or effort that healed me. It was the love I experienced from my God. He loved me when I have flaws. He loved me when I wasn’t beautiful. He desired me when I wasn’t perfect. And every day I am utterly amazed by a love that I didn’t deserve and couldn’t repay.

Beauty is a fight. The world tries every day to impress its reflection of beauty into our souls. We must refuse it. I made a decision when I was 21 to accept the love of Christ and stop striving. It was that day that I truly died with Christ, and I was literally raised with Him. New. And now His righteousness and beauty covers me.

And people began to ask me if something was different. They said I was glowing and beautiful. People began to ask me if I had fallen in love. My only response was, “Yes. I am ruined by love. And I can never be the same again.”

Romans 6:4
“We were buried therefore with him by baptism into death, in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glory of the Father, we too might walk in newness of life.”

Psalm 50:1-2
“The Mighty One, God the Lord, speaks and summons the earth from the rising of the sun to its setting. Out of Zion, the perfection of beauty, God shines forth.”
Psalm 34:4-5 “I sought the Lord, and He answered me. He delivered me from all my fears. Those who look to Him are radiant, and their faces are never covered with shame.”
My challenge to you….

You and I are reflections. We all portray something to the world. When people see you, they will either see the peace, hope, and love- the light of Jesus Christ. Or they will see the darkness of fear, insecurity, striving, and hopelessness. They will either see the words of truth that Jesus has spoken to you and you have believed and put your trust in. Or they will see the ugly words of hurt and disgust that the people and even yourself has spoken and believed.

One thing that I do is read Psalm 139 every day before my feet hit the ground. Try it. It will change you life.

If this is you….

– Recognize that you are not alone. There is nothing you believe about yourself, that other women haven’t also been told.

– Recognize that was all flawed. That no one is anything without Jesus.

– Recognize everything is a reflection of light and truth. You will either reflect darkness and the terrible words that others have said or you have allowed yourself to believe…OR… TRUE light and TRUE truth of Jesus will reflect from you.

– Surrender to His love. Pray. And get others to pray. Walk in the light. Share your struggles with others who will tell you the truth in Christ.

– Give your entire life to Jesus, all of it!

– BATTLE!! Every thought. It was a second by second battle for me for a long time. Replace the lies with the TRUTH. Start in Psalm 139

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Just gotta say it…

I need to take this opportunity to say…I love my corgi, Calvin. He’s just so happy!
That is all!

More on beauty this Sunday!!
Psalm 34:4-5
“I sought the Lord, and He answered me and delivered me from all my fears. Those who look to Him are radiant, their faces are never covered with shame.”

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I find it interesting a simple “let there be light” declared and created substance and identity in the world.

Scientists say that when you look at something (a red ball) you aren’t really seeing the red ball,

what you are really seeing is light reflecting off of the object and into your eye.

Think about it. A word from God declared light into the world. Words convey the meaning, identity, life, purpose, value…etc. to what we see. Light illuminates our life and our reality. And so I ask you this, would we even have a world at all without truth and light?

(a beautiful sunrise that my husband and me experienced this past summer in Malawi, Africa)

Without truth/words/language we would have no way of understanding the world. And without the reflection of light we have no way of seeing it.

Everything in reality is a reflection of a word and a reflection of light.

It has to point to something eternal. It’s too consistent. It’s too amazing. The sun brilliantly shines on our faces and lives each day. And when its sets across my beautiful, big Texas sky, the moon appears reflecting its glory into darkest of nights.

It’s beauty. Through a written word or a beautiful picture, it all reflects a greater reality, a great God.

Women everywhere literally die for beauty, and I am one of them. As much as I pretend I’m not. I am so tired of the battle with the mirror. So much of my life as been spent wishing for a different reflection to look back. I’m tired of lives that mirrors have taken, the countless hours, and the striving. Always striving.

Men appreciate and are attracted to beauty. And we women, long to be beautiful. One of our deepest desires is to be beautiful, to obtain the perfect reflection. A reflection of worth and value.

Darkness came into the world through sin, and shame, and pain. And it shattered our perception of true beauty. We now strive to reflect something that will satisfy our desires. But that which we are longing for, the images we are choosing to reflect, will never satisfy. The longing is so deep. It reaches down to our soul.

Beauty is spiritual. Beauty speaks an eternal language. God is beauty.

So my question for you is, what is true beauty?
What do you long to reflect to this world?

(to be continued…)

Psalm 50:1-2
“The Mighty One, God the Lord, speaks and summons the earth from the rising of the sun to its setting. Out of Zion, the perfection of beauty, God shines forth.”

“I see you there hanging on a tree. You bled and then You died and then You rose again for me. Now You are sitting on Your heavenly throne, soon we will be coming home. You’re beautiful” Beautiful by Phil Wickham

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This week tragedy struck my family. There are things and situations in life that age you. That leave scars. When I reflect back on the these situations in my own life, nearly all of these painful events come from being in relationship with people. Relationships hurt so bad. Sometimes I wonder to myself why God would require us to need them. I wonder why God would expect imperfect people to love us, refine us, and reflect Jesus Christ to us.

If you are a believer in Jesus Christ, you are called the ‘Bride of Christ’. Together, we are called the ‘Body’. But what kind of Bride are we? Loyal and Faithful, Sacrificial and Loving? And do I take care of my body, the ‘Body’?

So often I find myself becoming bitter, angry, and selfish towards my own body, the people around me. And I wonder, could I hate my own foot, despise my hand, selfishly deprive my nose, and abandon my belly button; and still love myself?

Maybe the real problem isn’t other people at all. Maybe we are so aware of the imperfections in others, because we really reminded of the imperfections in our own souls. And maybe, we just don’t want to admit it. I think a lot of times, we have been so hurt by the relationships in our lives that we would rather withdraw and abandon people that engage in vulnerable, sacrificial love relationships. (I know for me, its just the easiest thing to do) Instead of loving people, refining people, and reflecting my Savior Jesus to people who need it most, I ignore them from a distance from my self-preservation shell.

The reality is that I’m too ashamed of my own inadequacy to love them where they are. Thank you Jesus. Thank you that you didn’t choose to do this to me, as I wallowed in my own sin and self-pity. You paid the ultimate sacrifice of love for me, when it cost you pain and shame…when it cost you everything.

Romans 5:6-8 (English Standard Version)
“For while we were still weak, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly. For one will scarcely die for a righteous person—though perhaps for a good person one would dare even to die—but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners,Christ died for us.”

This week, I have experienced Jesus Christ in a beautiful way. In my great inadequacy, I wasn’t abandoned or turned away. In great hurt, in great tragedy, the love of Christ was poured into my family and into me by the people around me. It was an outpouring of the love of Jesus Christ, the physical reality of Heaven. I’ve never experienced anything like it. And for the first time in my life, I realized that its only through the gift of relationships that we truly experience love and healing.

True love isn’t about who you are or what you’ve done. True love is about who He is and what He’s done.

Thank you.


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-What kind of Bride are you to Jesus?
-How do you treat your body, “The Body”

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